Sunday, April 19, 2015
Friday, April 17, 2015
Thursday, April 16, 2015
Today is my Birthday
There's no fear in fashion, love, and life.
So today is my birthday. Well actually my 36th birthday. Not ashamed of my age at all even though I am pushing 40! But, remembrance is the most that I feel today. Remembrance Killers. I remember 6 years ago today being back in my hometown of Delaware and I turned 30. I planned a huge party at Polidoro's restaurant and lounge for everyone to attend and yes when you plan it, they will come. It was the greatest party ever. Salsa music and food and great people. Family, friends, coworkers, the whole sh-bang. I remember going to party city and getting these huge balloons, a $100 worth to be exact. I made my dress, a coral sleeveless piece with added argyle sweater ruffles in the front..lol I know but the picture is below. I had on gold Dior heels, and a china doll wig with a princess crown. Oh yes, it was a big deal. My husband's parents showed up along with his uncle and his best friends, my sister, my aunt, my cousins, everybody was there. We danced the night away and got tore up from the floor up. It was the best night ever. Now, here I am at 36 and I am away from home for the last 6 years in Atlanta. I planned another celebration of the same caliber, but at Loca Luna. Yes, a salsa restaurant and club. The only thing is, not the same people are here. Yes my husband and brother, but not my best friends Tashell and Nikki, not my old coworkers, and not my hubby's parents and his friends. Not my cousins Miguel and Aunt Juanita, none of them. Will it be the same type of party with my new found friends and coworkers? Will I have the same amazing time as I did before? Well, I know I will because life is about evolving and changing. Its about expanding into the known and unknown and generating new connections. When you have a birthday, its your new year celebration. You are growing wiser in all aspects of life. Some say getting older is daunting. Well not me Bitch. I like being this age. I like that I have survived so much in my life and I love all of the experiences that I have been through in my lifetime. Shit, this is only the beginning baby. They say in Chinese horoscopes that this is the year of the sheep, the ram and yes I am one of them. All I have been given is blessings in many forms I cannot begin to describe. I am not trying to brag, but I have paid my dues and put in work for far too long and now it is finally going to pay off. They have a saying at work called Dealing with Ambiguity. Its the motion of dealing with the unknown and embracing it without negativity. Its about changes that are vague but for the greater good. Today, turning 36, that is how I feel. I feel that I am conquering ambiguity, not dealing with it. So for all my Aries Killers that are celebrating their birthdays this month, I love you and I want you to be happy and get your fucking party on. You are going to do the same thing next year with even more of connections, expansion, and greater experiences in life.
So today is my birthday. Well actually my 36th birthday. Not ashamed of my age at all even though I am pushing 40! But, remembrance is the most that I feel today. Remembrance Killers. I remember 6 years ago today being back in my hometown of Delaware and I turned 30. I planned a huge party at Polidoro's restaurant and lounge for everyone to attend and yes when you plan it, they will come. It was the greatest party ever. Salsa music and food and great people. Family, friends, coworkers, the whole sh-bang. I remember going to party city and getting these huge balloons, a $100 worth to be exact. I made my dress, a coral sleeveless piece with added argyle sweater ruffles in the front..lol I know but the picture is below. I had on gold Dior heels, and a china doll wig with a princess crown. Oh yes, it was a big deal. My husband's parents showed up along with his uncle and his best friends, my sister, my aunt, my cousins, everybody was there. We danced the night away and got tore up from the floor up. It was the best night ever. Now, here I am at 36 and I am away from home for the last 6 years in Atlanta. I planned another celebration of the same caliber, but at Loca Luna. Yes, a salsa restaurant and club. The only thing is, not the same people are here. Yes my husband and brother, but not my best friends Tashell and Nikki, not my old coworkers, and not my hubby's parents and his friends. Not my cousins Miguel and Aunt Juanita, none of them. Will it be the same type of party with my new found friends and coworkers? Will I have the same amazing time as I did before? Well, I know I will because life is about evolving and changing. Its about expanding into the known and unknown and generating new connections. When you have a birthday, its your new year celebration. You are growing wiser in all aspects of life. Some say getting older is daunting. Well not me Bitch. I like being this age. I like that I have survived so much in my life and I love all of the experiences that I have been through in my lifetime. Shit, this is only the beginning baby. They say in Chinese horoscopes that this is the year of the sheep, the ram and yes I am one of them. All I have been given is blessings in many forms I cannot begin to describe. I am not trying to brag, but I have paid my dues and put in work for far too long and now it is finally going to pay off. They have a saying at work called Dealing with Ambiguity. Its the motion of dealing with the unknown and embracing it without negativity. Its about changes that are vague but for the greater good. Today, turning 36, that is how I feel. I feel that I am conquering ambiguity, not dealing with it. So for all my Aries Killers that are celebrating their birthdays this month, I love you and I want you to be happy and get your fucking party on. You are going to do the same thing next year with even more of connections, expansion, and greater experiences in life.
Monday, April 13, 2015
The Western Way of Thinking
There's no fear in fashion, love, and life.
They say that the east is always better than the west in regards to sex, love, arts, and culture. That us westerners are drawn by pure capitalism, are completely selfish and greedy, and nothing more. We have no appreciation of the arts and the freedom of sexuality. We are only worried about our jobs, bills, how to make more money, and finding that right person who will be fully committed, totally monogamous, and will never cheat on you. Its just you and them forever and ever and ever. So why do some cultures have that ultimately successful marriage? How come the Asian women are so forgiving, so into their men and do everything for them? Cook, clean, take care of the children, and let them have their fun in and out of the bedroom. Is that how they have such successful marriages, because they let their men do whatever they want? This leads me to another question, how come the man is superior? How come they get the cake and eat it too? Is that how it really is supposed to be? So I dug a little deeper. When you search in the bible, there are kings, disciples, slaves, and more who all have had several wives. Even in the Islamic culture, they believe in multiple wives. They all play their position, taking care of the children and home, but there is always one main queen, one main woman that oversees all and keeps the other wives in check. Is it that westerners are infatuated with being the queen, the only one? Are we that jealous and possessive to not want to share our men? The ironic part is that these women of God were all satisfied with their lives. What's even more confusing is that the bible also states that it is a sin to take on multiple wives, the reason that King Solomon and the other men in the bible were so successful and did good deeds was because God forgave them for the sins they committed with having multiple wives, but accepted their goodness and still gave them a successful life. The bible says Adam and Eve, not Adam, Eve, Tameka, and ReeRee. As long as you don't sin in any other category you can still have an abundant life and God will just forgive you for that sin. Hmmm, seems a little odd, who wrote this book??? Let me guess, a man! Let's dig a little deeper. In nature, let's take a look at the monkeys and gorillas since Darwin thinks we came from them according to the theory of evolution. The king gorilla or monkey has all the women in the tribe. Yes there are many couples in the kingdom, but the head of the tribe can have any female he wants, procreate, and keep it moving. There may be a fight between the gorillas if they are truly in love, but all in the same right, the main gorilla has most of the chicks in the tribe. Now look at lions, the king lion has two or three lioness's procreating with him. He gets to eat first, kids second, and woman last. Sometimes the woman does not even eat! Seems like a rough life, some that many women today are going through, making sure their children eat and never mind their appetite because we are just that strong to survive as long as our children are okay. Would we go to that same sacrifice for our men? So why oh why are we so scared of the big ole threesome? Well for me personally, I just didn't think of being with another woman and my husband at the same damn time. At first I would say ewww gross. Then after another million times of him asking, I would say well I do think girls are pretty and gorgeous and all that but I am not doing anything to them! Then after a million more times of him asking me and telling the history behind it all and how we as Americans suck and how we as non-bisexual women are coming extinct, I thought who the hell would want to do that three deed with me? Have no idea how to find the chicks, where to look, nothing, nada. I reached out to a few of my bisexual home girls who once were married or had a dude and a chick and they all said the same thing, girl you better satisfy your man! Well shit. So back to square one, should I go to the lesbian club and look for a unicorn and bring her home? Would I even find one? Then it hits me, well chicks that like chicks do like me so the next one that hits on me that I could possibly see a vision with, I would ask fuck it. My luck, not one chick has given me the sign. If they did, I must have not seen it. Or I punked out. I still don't want the whole multiple wife thing in my life, I like me and my hubby's time together alone. However, I will definitely consider taking the leap and not being this westernized prude that so many men think we as women are. It may be another month or hell another year, but when it does happen, you will know. Until the next time Killers...
They say that the east is always better than the west in regards to sex, love, arts, and culture. That us westerners are drawn by pure capitalism, are completely selfish and greedy, and nothing more. We have no appreciation of the arts and the freedom of sexuality. We are only worried about our jobs, bills, how to make more money, and finding that right person who will be fully committed, totally monogamous, and will never cheat on you. Its just you and them forever and ever and ever. So why do some cultures have that ultimately successful marriage? How come the Asian women are so forgiving, so into their men and do everything for them? Cook, clean, take care of the children, and let them have their fun in and out of the bedroom. Is that how they have such successful marriages, because they let their men do whatever they want? This leads me to another question, how come the man is superior? How come they get the cake and eat it too? Is that how it really is supposed to be? So I dug a little deeper. When you search in the bible, there are kings, disciples, slaves, and more who all have had several wives. Even in the Islamic culture, they believe in multiple wives. They all play their position, taking care of the children and home, but there is always one main queen, one main woman that oversees all and keeps the other wives in check. Is it that westerners are infatuated with being the queen, the only one? Are we that jealous and possessive to not want to share our men? The ironic part is that these women of God were all satisfied with their lives. What's even more confusing is that the bible also states that it is a sin to take on multiple wives, the reason that King Solomon and the other men in the bible were so successful and did good deeds was because God forgave them for the sins they committed with having multiple wives, but accepted their goodness and still gave them a successful life. The bible says Adam and Eve, not Adam, Eve, Tameka, and ReeRee. As long as you don't sin in any other category you can still have an abundant life and God will just forgive you for that sin. Hmmm, seems a little odd, who wrote this book??? Let me guess, a man! Let's dig a little deeper. In nature, let's take a look at the monkeys and gorillas since Darwin thinks we came from them according to the theory of evolution. The king gorilla or monkey has all the women in the tribe. Yes there are many couples in the kingdom, but the head of the tribe can have any female he wants, procreate, and keep it moving. There may be a fight between the gorillas if they are truly in love, but all in the same right, the main gorilla has most of the chicks in the tribe. Now look at lions, the king lion has two or three lioness's procreating with him. He gets to eat first, kids second, and woman last. Sometimes the woman does not even eat! Seems like a rough life, some that many women today are going through, making sure their children eat and never mind their appetite because we are just that strong to survive as long as our children are okay. Would we go to that same sacrifice for our men? So why oh why are we so scared of the big ole threesome? Well for me personally, I just didn't think of being with another woman and my husband at the same damn time. At first I would say ewww gross. Then after another million times of him asking, I would say well I do think girls are pretty and gorgeous and all that but I am not doing anything to them! Then after a million more times of him asking me and telling the history behind it all and how we as Americans suck and how we as non-bisexual women are coming extinct, I thought who the hell would want to do that three deed with me? Have no idea how to find the chicks, where to look, nothing, nada. I reached out to a few of my bisexual home girls who once were married or had a dude and a chick and they all said the same thing, girl you better satisfy your man! Well shit. So back to square one, should I go to the lesbian club and look for a unicorn and bring her home? Would I even find one? Then it hits me, well chicks that like chicks do like me so the next one that hits on me that I could possibly see a vision with, I would ask fuck it. My luck, not one chick has given me the sign. If they did, I must have not seen it. Or I punked out. I still don't want the whole multiple wife thing in my life, I like me and my hubby's time together alone. However, I will definitely consider taking the leap and not being this westernized prude that so many men think we as women are. It may be another month or hell another year, but when it does happen, you will know. Until the next time Killers...
Friday, April 3, 2015
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